The Best Party Theme Ever! Celebrate With a Onesie Pajama Party

One thing we all can agree on is that we need more excuses to wear our onesies to parties. They are awesome, cute, fluffy, and incredibly comfortable. So, why not combine your love of onesies with the ever-popular trend of throwing pajama parties? After all, everybody loves a good pajama party, and with your onesie, you will be the star of the show.


Besides, throwing a onesie party is something that big clubs are doing anyhow. In fact, they are spreading like wildfire. One of the recent parties in the New York City Vulture Arts festival was a pajama party. For the party, the stars of the comedy TV show Playing House came in their pajamas. Those who were participating in the festival had the chance to enjoy their early brunch in their favorite onesies. And don’t think for a second that most people that came didn’t use that opportunity to rock their onesie outfits.


However, New York is not the only city to call the onesie lovers out for a party. In fact, Philadelphia soon had one of its own. Namely, Kevin Van Jones, the manager of a San Diego hostel, organized a bar crawl in Philly, where all participants had to wear their onesies. Of course, that is not all. Similar events took place around the States. Cities like Denver, Portland, and of course, San Francisco, had their own onesie bar crawls.


And that is not all we can expect from Kevin Van Jones. He says he plans to organize something bigger – a onesie convention where you can hang out with other onesie fans. There will finally be a convention where you can be anything. You can wear any onesie you want, and nobody will judge you, even in the slightest. Not that you should care about the haters.


However, Kevin is not the only person organizing onesie parties. The Living Computers museum in Seattle threw a onesie pajama party. The name of the party was “Cats of the Internet” party. The party was a part of their ongoing process of teaching children about informational technologies. They usually do it through various exhibits that show the kids the latest technology. They teach about 3D printing, hacking, and of course, the culture of the netizens. If you ever get an invitation to one of their parties, make sure you sport your coolest cat onesie there.


Of course, private parties celebrities throw aren’t far behind in popularity. Lauren Alaina, one of the best country singers in the world, had a lot of fun at a party in Nashville. While other stars go out and treat themselves to a expensive perfumes or jewelry, Lauren went with something else entirely. She got herself a goat onesie.


So, in the end, if you love your onesies, don’t worry about sharing your love with the world. In fact, celebrate it. Throw a onesie party and call all of your friends over. And, if they don’t have a onesie of their own, you can lend some of your extra onesies to them. After all, they are a one-size-fits-all type of clothing. Or, if you are not that keen on throwing parties yourself, you can go to one of the major events to meet new people that share your passions.




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The People’s Guide to a Brilliant Coffee Date

Ah, the coffee date, the classic casual first date. Unlike its classic contemporaries (movies, candlelit dinner, I’m looking at you) coffee dates don’t have to suck. Coffee outings are great, because they allow two people to meet in a casual, no frills setting and focus on what’s important: getting to know each other. If either party isn’t feeling the vibe, it’s easy to bow out. What’s not to love?

Of course, that all sounds great, but many of us have been on our fair share bad coffee dates. So what gives? Well, like most things that have to do with romance, even something as simple as sharing a caffeinated beverage can get complicated. Enter the People’s Guide to a Brilliant Coffee Date. Get ready to learn all you need to know about planning the perfect coffee house excursion for you and your future love to get acquainted.

1. Pick the destination.
When picking the perfect place to get coffee, the most important qualities to consider are the location, the spatial dynamics, and the vibe. It’s not a perfect equation, but you’ll want to weigh these against what you know about your date to pick the best coffee shop.

Location is pretty simple. Pick a place that’s relatively easy for both of you to get to. If you don’t mind traveling, pick one closer to them. Make it as easy as possible for them to get to the date.

The vibe of the coffee shop will telegraph your taste preferences. Do you like mom and pop homestyle cafes or do you prefer artisanal fresh roast pour over options? Also, try to pick somewhere upbeat. The fewer people working on laptops the better. The vibe isn’t a make or break, but it may reveal telling differences or similarities between you.

Probably the most important factor to consider in your selection is the coffee shop’s spatial dynamic. Since your goal is to get to know your date, pick a place where you can talk freely. The ideal place would have well spaced tables and customers that wouldn’t mind an animated first date conversation. Private patios and corner seating are a plus.

No need to worry about how the coffee tastes.

2. Always reconfirm the date.
As a good rule of thumb, always confirm the meeting time on the day of. People flake or ghost—it’s nothing personal. Save yourself the trouble of getting stood up. When they give you the confirmation text that they’ll be there, you’re good to go. In regards to getting stood up, if the person is running late, I give 20 minutes for them to show up or text to say they’re running late. If I haven’t heard from them in that time period, I’ll head out (or stay if I’m in the mood to enjoy a book).

3. Show up early.
While you shouldn’t need a reason to show up early, I’ll give you a few. First, if you show up early, you’ll have the best chance to get a good spot to sit. You don’t want to have to stand in a busy coffee shop on your first date.

Second, if you’re someone who gets bad first date nerves, this will give you some time to calm down. Warm up your conversational muscles by chatting with the baristas, then take your seat and take a few yoga breaths. Caffeine has been linked to anxiety, so lay off if you’re feeling jittery.

Third, you can mitigate some first date awkwardness. If you’re meeting for the first time, it’s always best to start by chatting, but waiting in line for drinks isn’t the best place for introductions. When you show up early, you can get your drink and cup of water for them, which will alleviate the pressure for them to get up and order a drink right away because you have one. This way you can get past the initial hellos (the most awkward part of the date) at the table before you get up to get them a drink.

4. Buying the drink.
This is a more hotly debated topic. On the first date, I usually offer to get their drink. I think it’s a nice gesture. If they insist on buying for themselves (or for both of us), then that’s okay, too. There’s a lot hubbub about who should pay, but ultimately you’re both adults with good intentions trying to get to know each other—you’ll figure it out.

5. Now do the date.
At last, you’ve both made it to your table beverages in hand. This is the date. Conversationally, start small. Where they’re from, what their dreams are, and what they do for fun are all good places to start. Steer clear of family and relationships. Try not to dig too deep, unless they offer up that information freely. You’re just trying to get a feeling for who they are and share in kind. These conversations will often be more about feeling than information exchange.

Next, be present. Most of us spend most hours of each day on autopilot. If you want to make a connection, you have to be mentally present to receive it. Let your guard down and put your attention at the ready. Withhold your judgements, opinions, and words that you just have to get in when they’re talking. Actually hear what they have to say. This is the best way to get to know someone.

A last note on chatting: don’t expect something hypersexualized and don’t expect to get anything out of it. Walk in open-minded. First dates can be overtly sexual, but often they’re not. Some dates may end in kisses or more, but ultimately they’re about getting to know each other.

6. Go for a walk, plan the next date, or move on.
Most coffee dates will last about an hour or two. At that point, it’s time to figure out what’s next. If you enjoy their company, you can continue the date to food or an activity or plan to pick up a different time.

If you don’t feel the chemistry, say so gently. There’s no need to tell someone you want to hang out when you don’t. Conversely, if you’re interested but they’re not, respect their decision and take your leave.

So that’s it. You’ve completed the People’s Guide to a Brilliant Coffee Date…which isn’t a guarantee of anything. It’s just a better way of doing things. The search for love is rarely quick. It may be a while till you find the one, if that’s even what you’re looking for. Dating is about sharing company and the occasional intimate moment with a stranger. If you did things right, there’s magic in that. Cosmopolitan’s tips on how to have perfect date might also help you.

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